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The 90 Percent Theory Of Evolution
Copyright 1994
Anthony Price
As a relatively young man (I was in my late twenties) I found that I regularly made the same
mistakes. I found these mistakes everywhere, although my interest was in interpersonal relationships. I
found them in other people. I found them in other people’s pets… Okay, okay, I found them in my own
pet. Little things like, “Why am I always being dumped? I’m a nice guy.” Or even big things like, “Why
would a woman live with a man who beats her, particularly if she recently ended a similar relationship with another man?”
I asked myself, “Why do I feel like there is nothing to live for anywhere, now that this woman I
have grown to love has chosen to grow without me?” I also asked, “This is my third checking account,
why am I still bouncing checks?”
I wondered why I would buy a car for a couple hundred bucks and not be able to sell if for a
couple thousand? Other people could. I wondered why I was always broke. I wondered why things
never went my way, and I mean NEVER!!
I started studying human relationships around the fall of 1990. By 1992, I had a firm concept on
what I was doing and why it wasn’t so much wrong as it was unhealthy. I learned terms like
co-dependency, positive-self-dimension, self-esteem and dysfunctional. But I still wanted to know why.
(This is also part of my dis-ease, but that’s a story all by itself.)
By 1994, I was behaving like a classic codependent, in a relationship I shouldn’t have been in,
with a woman who was addicted to something other than me. I knew what I was doing, but I didn’t
know why. For me, the “why’s” and the “how’s” have always been the most important. That’s how I understand things. I’m a little better with my relationships now, but mostly because I know WHY.
I call it my 90 Percent Theory of Evolution. I have compounded all the information I have taken
in over the years and come up with this entirely new theory. It is based on a few simple and well-known
facts about human beings.
I have yet to hear of the neurologist, psychiatrist, sociologist, or any other “mind” specialist that
thinks we use more than 10 percent of our mind. Most say it’s less than 10, some say it’s as little as one,
some say five, but none say it’s more than 10.
These same officials agree in something called “sub-conscious” and something called a “conscious”
mind. The conscious part is the stuff we think about all day long. The decision to go to the grocery store.
Or the decision to tie your shoes.
The subconscious, on the other hand, is all the other stuff we decide to do but don’t know why we decided to do it. It’s the guilty feeling when we don’t put money in the collection plate on Sunday. It’s
the beating of your heart. It’s how bad you feel when you yell at your kids. But it’s also why you yelled
at your kids in the first place.
I mentioned shoes before, so I’ll use them in my best example. If the conscious mind decides to
tie shoes, the subconscious does the work. Stop and think about how you tie shoes for a moment… Do
you think about each muscle and movement in your fingers? Or do you, like me, just find them tied?
Chances are; you find them tied.
Think for a moment about walking across the room. Do you have to think about all the contracting
and relaxing muscles in your legs, or do you find yourself there moments after you decide to go?
This rang a curious bell in my head one day as I showed up in my driveway after work. I had no recollection of the ride home! I started thinking and studying how this could be.
Bob Earll puts it another way: “I’m convinced that my head thinks it can kill my body and go on
without me.” His version of “head” has to be the same as my version of “subconscious.”
So how is it that you can drive (in my case) 20 miles in a car without any clue as to where you’ve
been? It happens, not because the car knows the where you’re going, but because your subconscious
knows the way and your conscious is busy working out some other daily problem.
So the experts say we use less that 10 percent of our mind. I’m optimistic. I say we use all of 10
percent. Mainly because it’s easy math. If we use 10 percent consciously, we have 90 percent left over
for unconscious use. That means that 90 percent must be programmed to do things like breathe, keep the
heart beating and help our cars find the way home when we are too busy thinking about something else.
What all this means to you and me is this: Our subconscious mind make 90 percent of our decisions
for us and it makes those decisions in a manner that follows the program. Just like we “programmed” it
to know the way home from work. If this is true, we can predict what decision we will make in advance
if we now how our subconscious was “programmed!” In order to find out how it was programmed, we
have to find out when.
This is easier than you may initially think. When did you learn to tie your shoes or walk across the
room? Let’s stick with tieing your shoes because it is so easy to follow. I learned how to tie my shoes
about the ripe old age of three. Most of my 90 percent was programmed before I made it to the 5-year
mark.
If I look as you tie your shoes, I may see that you do it differently than I do. For about a million
reasons, your way may be different from my way. That doesn’t make you right and me wrong, it only
makes us different. But if I see that I am a better person if I tie my shoes the way you do, I can
consciously do it the same way for about a week or two, then my subconscious will take over and I will
tie my shoes your way henceforth. This practice can be applied to ANY behavior you would like to
change.
Now, let’s use this theory to explain our everyday behavior in certain situations. How much of
your intellectual patterns are based on your parents, or whatever role models you had to follow? How
many teenagers can be found smoking cigarettes with parents who do not? I know I saw my father
smoke until I was five. He quit, and I started when I was eleven.
Can you remember things from your preschool years? The subconscious (this is not new) has a
protection device built in that prevents us from remembering things that are too painful, but those painful
memories are programmed into the subconscious and recalled when we make decisions as adults.
Let’s use the example of a woman in the second abusive relationship.
Any chance you were spanked by your father? Any chance you saw your father beat your mother?
Any chance you were ignored as a baby? All of these factors are common in your subconscious as you
pick a mate. No one would pick a mate who is physically abusive, but the other personality traits, or rules,
will be recognized by your subconscious first, making this mate seem right; until you are hit and you think
it’s not right. . . after you forgive how many times? You see, it’s not the physical that attracts you, it’s
the charm, the turning of a phrase, it’s the control of emotions, it’s the poise. These are the character
traits your subconscious will find. The violence will just tag along for the ride.
Think about the way you arrange your furniture. Is there any resemblance to your furniture
arrangement and that of the house you grew up in? Or perhaps it’s the complete opposite? Either is
based on the same. Again, let me emphasize, this does NOT mean there is anything wrong. It is only
used as an example to understand the subconscious motivation.
The important part of all this is change. If you are happy in the most complete way, never mind.
Go about your business; this doesn’t apply to you. But if you are unhappy, in any way, about your life’s existence, you should look into change. A change for the better. Any change we want to make can be
made the same way I changed how I tie my shoes. But if I need to change something deeper than tying
my shoes, I need to look deeper.
First, look to see how you think now, then find someone, anyone, who has what you wish you
had in a given area. Maybe you are in an abusive relationship as already discussed. Find a friend, of the
same sex, who isn’t. Then study that person! I know this sounds silly, but find out what they have in a
mate. Find out what their role models were like and compare them to your own. Then apply the lessons
of tying your shoes. Put into practice what you have learned.
Read books. Or if you don’t like to read, listen to tapes or watch video seminars. The Public
Library has thousands of titles in all these formats.
If you are to apply this, you must set a goal. The subconscious thinks of goals the way our cars
think of gas. Entire volumes have been written on the importance of goals. Set a challenging and distinct
goal.
Plan your reward. If the goal is the gas, the reward is the spark that ignites the gas. Volumes have
been written on rewards. Plan your reward.
Understand how powerful your mind is. Your mind, when applied, can put a man on the moon!
It can build a bomb so powerful that an entire city can be turned to dust! It can do anything!
You must also understand how powerful your subconscious mind is. This part keeps your heart
beating. But even what is more important; remember how powerful the conscious mind is. That’s the
part that tells the subconscious how to work! You conscious mind is the computer programmer. The subconscious is merely the program.
And there is only one programmer. Only one person can make your decisions. That’s you. And
you cannot make anyone else’s decisions either. You control you and nobody else but you. Remember
that quote, “no one can make a fool of me without my permission.”
Now, go out and lose twenty pounds! Write a hit song! Have a great relationship! Conquer the
world! You have the tools, and you know how.
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